I'm Brittany! Age 22, she/her pronouns. Welcome to my lovely but disorganized blog. I don't have a theme but I like books, tv, youtube, animals, and gay stuff
‘I’m a woman-leaning bisexual and you know what pisses me off? The fact that I’m dating a skinny white man and I love him and I’m happy, like what the fuck.’
And I just have to say. What pisses me off as a bisexual woman is that TikTok.
This is the Woke version of ‘my wife is the ol’ ball and chain, doesn’t it suck to be married,’ jokes. It’s not funny. Your queerness is not negated or tarnished by opposite-gender attraction, dating men isn’t inherently worse than dating women.
Love your partner.
Cherish them.
For fucks sake.
So much this. I’ve had a rant building for a while and it looks like today’s the day.
I’m getting REAL SICK of that “bisexual means I’m attracted to all women and two men” joke. I’m getting equally sick of the implication, in a thousand ways, that men are bad and it’s inherently worse to be attracted to them. If you’re a woman or woman-adjacent and you fall in love with a man, there’s this horrible and easy-to-internalize idea that you’re taking the lesser option.
Like y’all. Y’all? You know that’s gender essentialist radfem bullshit, right?
If you didn’t, I’d like to gently suggest you consider the idea that “Men are problematic (read: sinful) and violent, women are pure, beautiful and loving” is just conservative Christian ideology in a gay hat. We are not advancing towards equality for all genders by flipping which end of the scale is The Bad One ™.
I’m bisexual. I make a point of talking about being queer (because it’s my identity and culture, and that’s important to me), and I present mostly in the androgynous area of the spectrum. People often assume I’m only/mostly interested in women.
That’s actually not true. I like all genders, but when it comes to specific people, I’m most often attracted to men. And it makes me sad – really, genuinely sad – how many times I’ve felt ashamed to talk about that. Even though I’m not a woman, liking a man has made me feel “not queer enough.” Hell, some days it still does.
I’m gonna say this, even though I know a lot of people won’t like it. And I will also say in advance that I am not accepting criticism and I don’t argue on the internet as a personal mental health policy.
That said, here is the statement: This too is a closet.
Anytime you’re ashamed to admit to liking someone because they’re the “wrong” gender, anytime falling in love is treated like a disappointment instead of a celebration, I don’t care who you are or who your partner is, that is a FUCKING CLOSET. And I would appreciate it if we could STOP PUTTING PEOPLE IN THOSE.
Honestly, shit like that should be seen for the relationship red flag it is.
If you’re a man, absolutely do not date someone who thinks their attraction or affection for you is something they ought to be ashamed of.
And regardless of your gender, avoid women who subscribe to the idea that women can do no wrong and are inherently pure and safe because holy fuck is that an easy and gaslighty shield to hide behind for abusers. I’ve heard a variation of that story too many times to think there’s not a correlation there.
Amen to that. And “it’s a joke” isn’t the excuse people think it is.
ppl be acting like being attracted to men is a disease
Hi I used to make these jokes too and it’s absolutely because of how fucking shitty the lgbtqia community has been towards bi women. I felt like I HAD to downplay my attraction to men in order to reassure people that I’m not straight.
That’s fucked up. Y'all need to observe your behavior and wonder if you’re contributing to the shit that makes bi women feel like they’re not good enough.
it’s honestly crazy how many ppl u meet in your early twenties who have never been in love or been in a relationship or had sex and then you’re like oh it’s actually normal and social milestones actually mean nothing bc everyone is different and has different experiences. cool!
The whole concept of “late-bloomers” is just another semingly cute name for the the belief that people have expiring dates and only youth is worth it and I wholeheartedly abhorre it
man the Appalachian mountains really aren’t shit huh
The Rockies are new, young and virile and fresh from the Laramide orogeny, tall and lanky teenagers on the geological scale.
the Appalachian mountains are old, formed hundreds of millions of years ago before dinosaurs walked the Earth. They are ancients, elders, witnesses to half a billion years of life coming and going.
To be tall is not a virtue. To be small is not a sin. The Appalachians are eroding under the weight of time, slowly shrinking and returning to the Earth from which they sprang.
Appreciate them while they are still here.
I do want to say real quick again about the age of the Appalachians…
They said “before dinosaurs,” but we have a cave here that began forming between 450 million to 550 million years ago.
There are no bones in that cave. No fossils. No nothing.
That’s because this cave began forming before bones existed on land, and had only just started to exist in the ocean. Shellfish hadn’t evolved yet. Limestone, which forms many caves, was just starting to become a more prevalent rock.
The mountains aren’t older than dinosaurs. They are older thanbones.
see that little lump up at the top of minnesota? the sawtooth mountains? so small most places would just call them hills?
those are over a billion years old.
that’s why they’re so small. they’re the last ancient remnants of a lava flow 5 miles thick. the lava didn’t kill any dinosaurs. or any fish. or any animals at all. because there were no animals. you know what there was?
algae.
those mountains were 5 miles tall when the most advanced life on earth was algae.
so i’m just gonna go ahead and keep calling them mountains, even though all you need to climb them is hiking shoes and a nice afternoon. because a place where you can crouch down and touch basalt that was lava before leaves were invented deserves some respect.
The earth is unfathomably ancient, and you garner no love from her when you insult her eldest children.
thinness is not the default setting for human bodies
yes it is. you weren’t born obese, it’s because of your poor lifestyle choices that led to the accumulation of body fat and how you are now. you were never supposed to be like this
You’re only an ignorant bigot and you have no fucking clue what you’re talking about. Shut the entire fuck up.
Look, @anxangelxcried . I’m gonna guess you’re a kid based on your profile and the very deep and edgy poetry in your bio, so I’m gonna be nice here and assume that you’re speaking this way because you don’t know any better. It seems like you’re repeating a narrative that you’ve heard your whole life, rather than doing your own research and looking at the studies and statistics that actually teach us a lot about the science of weight.
There’s actually a whole lot of factors that determine weight, and it’s almost entirely genetic. It’s exactly the same principle as height. Do all people have the same height? The same skin? The same muscle mass? The same brain? No. We’re all playing a genetic lottery, here. Some people roll those dice and end up thin, or short, or blue eyed, or fat, or tall.
It’s random. Look, my family is fat. We’re all fat in the same way, in the same places. We look related when you line us up, because we are! It’s like copy-paste on the body type. My aunt is a laborer. Fat. My mom has a home gym that she uses daily and she’s been dieting for years. Fat. My other aunt goes to the gym and wouldn’t know a carb if it bit her, and guess what. Fat. Meanwhile, my old roommate would wake up and have a big party size bag of doritos for breakfast every morning. She’d follow that with a can of raviolis. At night, taco bell and ice cream. She worked in a call center, her job was stationary, so she wasn’t working it all off. And guess what? Thin. Just like her mother. Just like her father, who was skinny as a rail. I had another roommate a few years later, and she ate nothing but frozen dinners, prepackaged food, and fast food. Her favorite meal, to give you context, was two boxes of kraft mac and cheese, one can of nalley brand chili, and a pack of cut up hot dogs, all mixed together. And yes, she’d eat that whole thing, in one sitting. Meanwhile, I was cooking all my food at home (I had discovered some food sensitivities and fast/preserved food makes me very sick). Every night I’d eat just. Normal food. Meat, veggies, sides. Average food. Still fat! And my roommate was still thin. How on earth can someone eat like that and still be thin! But it happened right in front of my eyes, just like the roommate before her. She didn’t exercise at all, just played games. She didn’t have a job. Nothing. She wasn’t burning off those calories. But she stayed thin.
The point is, the narrative that gets pushed on us, on me, on you, on everyone, is that thin is the default. That the average person is very thin. Not only that, but the average person is also straight, cis, male, able bodied, young, and white. But that’s not what the majority of people look like. It’s just what society values most, so it’s what we see when we flip on the tv.
Being fat is totally normal, just like being tall is normal. There’s so much variation in every other area of humanity. Height, eye color, hair color, etc. Having your mother’s eyes is a common thing. Having your father’s hair, normal. But having your father’s big belly, your mother’s double chin, that’s somehow a sign of laziness and failure? That doesn’t make a lick of sense. Being fat is not bad. It is not a sign of some moral failing.
And you know what, everyone reading this, all my fat homies? It’s okay to like being fat. It’s okay to love your fat body. It’s okay to not want to change it, because there’s nothing wrong with it. Fat people are beautiful. It’s society that needs to correct itself.
I was also not born 5'9". Smh i just don’t think it’s natural for people to have fully developed bones :/ you aren’t born with them. Your body just automatically reacted to the environment through a series of hormonal changes to stimulate growth based on a variety of factors to ensure your survival.
@anxangelxcried - Actually we were born “obese”, if we were born as healthy, full-term babies. One of the things healthy, full-term babies are born with is a rather thick layer of fat - it’s what makes little babies chubby and adorable (that’s not its purpose, by the way - the fat is intended as fuel for things like breathing, living, growing and so on). Premature babies haven’t usually had a chance to gain this layer of fat, which is part of why premature babies need humidicribs and other TECHNOLOGICAL ASSISTANCE in order to survive. A skinny baby is not a healthy baby, and I suggest you go talk to a child health professional to find out why.
PS: quotes around “obese” are because “obese” is basically a made-up classification. Like “healthy” or “thin”. There is no meaning to it which isn’t wholly constructed, and wholly contextual. The definition of “obese” has been altered (by US government fiat) within my lifetime, that’s how arbitrary it is.
You need to go out and do a bit of research before you comment on things like this in future, because trust me, as you’ve already found out, this blog’s owners are not above biting your fucking head off if they think you aren’t fucking using it - and a lot of its readers (*waves*) are quite willing to follow suit.
